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It is the only book of its kind. It is the handbook of how to be a popular teen, teaching you how to develop the skills to be successful in high school and beyond. Every teen, parent, grandparent, etc, needs this book.

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From the back of the book:

Any teen can become popular!

When you’re popular, life is exciting. Popular people are surrounded by close friends, fans, and secret admirers. They have the skills to form meaningful romantic relationships and rarely get bullied, because they have the confidence to stand up for themselves and others.

Wouldn’t it feel great to give a class presentation without anxiety? To have the confidence and right words to ask that special someone to the dance? Or to be able to read your crush’s body language to know what he or she really thinks about you?

How would your life change if you replaced your feelings of loneliness, awkwardness, and frustration with happiness and self-confidence?

But…Can you be popular? Yes! Popular teens think and act in ways that make them loved and admired. This book reveals these scientifically-backed “popularity secrets” and makes learning and applying them in your life fun and easy.

Don’t worry, The Teen Popularity Handbook isn’t going to turn you into a bully or “mean girl,” but a confident, fun, and well-liked teen everyone wants to get to know. Also, since studies show that popular high-schoolers earn more money later in life than unpopular teens, the benefits of being popular never end. So, what are you waiting for? It’s time to start your exciting transformation into a popular teen right now!

280 pages. 

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Now Is The Time To Prepare For Summer

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Have big summer plans? Maybe it’s going to the beach or you swear you’re finally going to get a boyfriend or girlfriend. Perhaps you’re going to get in shape at last and join a sports team. Regardless, since you have summer off, it’s a great time to actually work on achieving your non-academic goals. Yes, you should have those. So, if you haven’t set goals for your summer break, that’s your first step.

However, if you have any big plans for the summer, there is no reason to delay them until summer. You can either start doing them right now or laying the foundation so that your summer can be awesome.

For example, maybe you want to go to the beach with your family and friends and meet new people but you’re worried about your body. Well, now is the time to start working out and losing weight.

Perhaps you have decided that over the summer you want to try out for the football team or get involved in a play. Now is the perfect time to start practicing your football skills or taking acting lessons.

Whatever your plans or goals for the summer, if you truly want to achieve them, then it’s best if you start working towards them right now. That way, once summer comes and you try to start living your plans, you’ll be way ahead of the game and ready to succeed.

If Your Teen Is Single On Valentine’s Day

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Most parents are very well-meaning. They want to help their children as much as possible. However, one day that parents become clueless is around Valentine’s Day. They might not remember the angst, pain, and struggles that come from being a single teen around early February. If your teen child is single on Valentine’s Day, here are a few things to keep in mind.

Family Love Isn’t the Same

I was single on Valentine’s Day several times as a teen. And, family members always wanted to remind me how much they cared through gifts, cards, etc. I appreciated it and enjoyed the chocolates and other candies. But, it wasn’t the same. I was still depressed and candies from family just didn’t cut it.

Valentine’s Depression Is Real

It’s hard enough being a teen the other 364 days. But, that day of the year when you’re expected to have a significant other and be “in love” to fit in makes it even harder when you don’t live up to expectations. And, most teens don’t. If your son or daughter is single realize that if they seem down, it’s likely real.

You Can Help Your Child

You still can be helpful to your single child. While you don’t want to lecture or force anything, you can find ways to be supportive. For example, offer to help with a new wardrobe, take your teen on a trip, and so on. Also, if you know a nice boy or girl, ask your teen if he or she would like to be set up for a date. If you do this, make sure to ask first. No one wants to be set up with someone they don’t find attractive.

So, with Valentine’s Day coming up, if your child is single, make sure to handle it correctly. There is nothing worse than a well-meaning parent making a teen’s already bad experience worse!

Merry Christmas 2014

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It’s beginning to look a lot like Christmas. In fact, it’s tomorrow! So, if you haven’t done your shopping, you’d better get on it (and hope your friends and family like what the stores have left). For many people Christmas is a great time of year with parties, friends, family, and presents.

That’s not the case for everyone. Sometimes people are lonely around the holidays or don’t have enough money to give or receive the gifts they want. If your holiday goal is being more popular, we’re here to help. Visit regularly and check out our book The Teen Popularity Handbook, as well.

If you’re a parent realize that your child likely wants to be popular, but it’s not like they teach it in school. It might be too late to order a physical copy for Christmas, but a Kindle copy makes a great, instant present.

Whatever your current predicament, we hope you have a great holiday season.

Merry Christmas from The Popular Teen!

Jonathan Bennett
David Bennett

The Worst Advice Your Parents And Teachers Can Give You Is…

thumbs upWhat I am about to say goes against virtually everything many of your parents, teachers, and friends tell you daily. They will probably tell you to avoid this article…but oh well…here goes…

So what is this common advice that I really can’t stand?

“Just be yourself.”

Your parents and friends mean well, as you probably do when you tell your friends the same thing. However, let’s think about this advice for a minute. Let me use this dialogue as an example.

You: “Mom, I can’t make any friends in this new school.”
Mom: “Just be yourself, honey; you will make friends!”

Sure, you don’t want your mom to start lecturing you about how horribly awkward you are, but let’s think through this advice of “be yourself” for a few minutes.

YOU can’t make friends.

YOU need social help.

YOU are frustrated, sad, and lonely.

Instead of being “yourself,” it sounds to me like you need to move beyond “yourself,” at least at that particular moment.

Your mom may have your best interest in mind. She is trying to affirm that you are all right as you are. And, that is a good thing. However, the better option would be for your mom to empathize with you (try to understand where you are coming from and acknowledge your feelings), but also provide you with some tools to help you actually make friends.

Personally, I don’t want to “be myself,” if I am fundamentally unhappy with who I am. There was a time when I was 50 pounds heavier, shy, awkward, depressed, and lonely. I am glad that I stopped “being myself” from that period.

“Just be yourself” encourages you to stay right where you are. If where you are is miserable, depressed, lonely, unhealthy, unfulfilled, etc, then guess what? You probably want to be somewhere else. Since you can’t be someone else, what can you do?

Stop being yourself at that moment, and become your best self.

Doing this right is a two-step process:

1. Stop Hating Yourself

If you aren’t where you are, and you want to improve, that is great. But, it doesn’t mean you need to shame or hate yourself. Acknowledge that you are valuable just because you are you. It sounds sappy, but if you hate yourself, you’ll never become your best self. It is like an artist hating the very paint and canvas he is using on his masterpiece. So, acknowledge that you are cool and worthy of respect from the start. Stop judging and shaming yourself and start you journey to a better place!

2. Focus on Making Slow and Positive Changes

After recognizing you have value and worth, now you can focus on becoming your best self.

The best methods of self-improvement are slow, positive (lead you to happy, safe, and healthy), and based on sound science.  If you are looking for something that fits the bill, you should *cough cough* check out our Teen Popularity Handbook.

For example, you can work on your shyness, practice meeting new people, overcome your fear of talking in groups, lose a pound a week, start running a few miles each week, etc.

Whatever you choose, becoming your best self is fun, exciting, and also challenging, but it is a good challenging, because you will work hard, but see great results from working hard.

You Should Be More Grateful

Table set for Thanksgiving dinnerI’m sure most teens have heard this hundreds of times, if not more, from their adult relatives and mentors. There’s nothing like an adult telling you to do something to make you want to get right on it, huh? However, you should be more grateful. Not because I, an adult, am telling you. You should want to increase your gratitude because it has many great benefits.

Happiness

People who practice gratitude have been shown to be happier on average than those who focused on the negative. It makes sense if you think about it. Taking a “poor me” attitude all the time leads us to focus on negativity and unhappiness. Finding gratitude in our daily lives makes us happy for what we have.

Friends

Grateful people are more happy. And, what do positive, happy people have more of typically? That’s right. Friends. In fact, studies have confirmed that people who are more positive and grateful are more likely to be social and get into friendships and even other, more romantic relationships.

Health

In one study, those who were more grateful exercised more and had fewer doctor’s visits. Gratitude makes us feel much more energized and ready to take on life. That’s good for not only our mental health but our physical health, as well.

It Feels Good

Being grateful actually feels good. When we focus on our happy feelings, we get more happy feelings in return. So, if you’re in a rut or generally unhappy, taking inventory of your life and thinking of the positive is a great way to snap out of it. We all have things to be happy about. Sometimes we just have to dig a little deeper.

So, as American Thanksgiving rolls around, take some time to be a little more grateful. Not because you should, but because it has great benefits.

The Teenage Obesity Epidemic

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In 1980, five percent of 12-19 year olds were obese. In 2012? The number jumped to nearly twenty one percent! (source) That means that in a school of five hundred teens, in 1980 25 of them would be obese (defined as having extreme excess body fat). Today, that number would be close to one hundred. While teens might fret over their appearance and other social issues that come from obesity, there are serious health problems too.

Teens can develop bone and joint issues, pre-diabetes, and even high blood pressure. These conditions used to be associated with old people. In addition, obese teens are likely to be obese adults which means an earlier and greater risk of practically every disease and negative health condition.

The teenage obesity epidemic is a real problem and it seems to be getting worse. Why is it such a big problem? Here are my theories.

Technology

Where do most teens spend their free time? With technology. Sure they might be hanging with friends or technically doing something else. But, in most cases they are with their phones, tablet, or video game systems. I love technology, but if a teen is glued to their phone, what are they not doing? Being active. Which leads us to point two…

Lack of activity

While some teens play sports or participate in physical activity, there is a large percentage of teens who do nothing. I’ll bet it’s close to twenty one percent. These teens don’t even get out and walk much. They spend their time watching TV, in front of screen of some kind, or hanging with friends (but not doing anything active). This inactivity leads to obesity because it’s usually combined with unhealthy eating.

Obese Parents

It’s hard to expect teens to be healthy when their parents aren’t. And, the percentage of obese adults is rising too. If a parent doesn’t work out or eat right, it’s hard to expect a teen to take the initiative and do otherwise. Although some do, most will not. So, obese parents create obese teens.

So, the teenage obesity epidemic is a real problem. Next week, I’m going to list ways parents can help their children lose weight and get healthy.