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It is the only book of its kind. It is the handbook of how to be a popular teen, teaching you how to develop the skills to be successful in high school and beyond. Every teen, parent, grandparent, etc, needs this book.

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From the back of the book:

Any teen can become popular!

When you’re popular, life is exciting. Popular people are surrounded by close friends, fans, and secret admirers. They have the skills to form meaningful romantic relationships and rarely get bullied, because they have the confidence to stand up for themselves and others.

Wouldn’t it feel great to give a class presentation without anxiety? To have the confidence and right words to ask that special someone to the dance? Or to be able to read your crush’s body language to know what he or she really thinks about you?

How would your life change if you replaced your feelings of loneliness, awkwardness, and frustration with happiness and self-confidence?

But…Can you be popular? Yes! Popular teens think and act in ways that make them loved and admired. This book reveals these scientifically-backed “popularity secrets” and makes learning and applying them in your life fun and easy.

Don’t worry, The Teen Popularity Handbook isn’t going to turn you into a bully or “mean girl,” but a confident, fun, and well-liked teen everyone wants to get to know. Also, since studies show that popular high-schoolers earn more money later in life than unpopular teens, the benefits of being popular never end. So, what are you waiting for? It’s time to start your exciting transformation into a popular teen right now!

280 pages. 

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Our New Mailing List And Free E-Book

We’ve been very busy lately here at the Popular Teen. As a feature for parents we are offering a new mailing list called “Your Successful Kid.” Now you can benefit from our advice about how to help your child become more popular, outgoing, sociable, and generally more successful on a daily basis via email. You can also get our free ebook called “Four Secrets to Raising Outgoing And Popular Kids.” Go here to sign up and download.

Our Anti-Bullying Interview

We had the pleasure of appearing on The Philippe Matthews Show with Dr. Cherrye Vasquez Robert Hammond to discuss anti-bullying efforts and what parents (and kids) can do to end bullying. Check it out, especially if you are a parent or teen being bullied.

The Surprising Factor That Determines 85% Of Your Career Success

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When I was a high school teacher, I noticed that many of my most successful students weren’t just those who could study for tests and memorize facts. In many cases, the best all around students (those who were academically successful, excellent athletically, involved in clubs, etc.) also had another factor in their favor: they had outstanding social skills.

When the ideas behind The Popular Teen were swirling in my head, I started to research the science of popularity, I found many studies and articles confirming what I observed. These agree that emotional, mental, and social factors not only play a very important role in career and financial success, but actually are more important than intelligence and technical knowledge to financial success.

Let me repeat that: Your personality and social skills are more important than technical knowledge in career success.

So, you may be the best accountant or teacher at work, or even the most academically gifted student in your class, but that doesn’t mean you will be successful. In fact, the guy or gal that is good at his or her job, but who comes across as likable, outgoing, and cool is probably going to get the promotion first.

This might fit with what you’ve noticed in your life. Many times the people at the top of companies (and other organizations, even countries) aren’t those who mastered every fine detail of their craft. Rather, they are “people persons” who are great at networking and persuasive with charming, assertive personalities.

In fact, research by the Carnegie Institute of Technology determined that 85 percent of a person’s financial success is due to skills in “human engineering,” meaning personality, communication, and leadership. Put another way, those with great personalities make more money than those who have bad ones.

This information is shocking because social skills are neglected by almost every educational institution. Schools relentlessly emphasize technical knowledge, when vast amounts of evidence point to the importance of intangible qualities, like social skills and personality, in career and financial success.

However, that is what we do here at The Popular Teen and our new service Your Successful Kid. We teach social skills, either directly to teens or through helping their parents. Don’t neglect this aspect of your child’s life. It leads to greater success both in the present and later in life.

Empower Yourself

We-Can-Do-ItDo you have problems? If you’re a normal teen, I’m sure you have more than your share. Being a teen isn’t easy. If you have issues, who is responsible? Is it your parents? Friends? Teachers? That kid who sat behind you in third grade?

While others might be the source of our problems, in most cases we don’t have the power to change other people. For example, you can’t make your mom be a better parent and maybe that kid in third grade has long since moved across the country. So, who can change your situation? The answer is you.

Yes, you can empower yourself and make your situation in life better. It’s up to you to work up the courage and effort to make the changes needed to improve your life. It’s not always easy and you’ll encounter resistance for sure. But with a determined attitude and hard work, you can succeed.

Even if you talk to an adult to get help with an issue (which you should if it’s something like abuse, depression, etc.), you still have to work up the courage to do that. So, how do you empower yourself?

The first step is to believe in yourself. You have to believe that you’re worth standing up for, whether it’s being more successful, standing up to bullies, getting help with something that’s affecting you, and so on. For people who have been beaten down for years, it’s hard. But that’s the first step.

Second, you’ll need to find out how to change and get all the help you can. Reach out to like minded people and find all the resources out there. That includes books, the internet, friends, and yes, even adults. There’s no need to go it alone or reinvent the wheel.

Finally, you’ll have to do the work that change requires. The best things in life (going to college, financial success, health and fitness, overcoming illness, etc.) can require a lot of work. But, they’re worth it. If you want good things in life, it’ll take the hard work necessary to change your life.

So, empower yourself. You’re never too young. Lots of teens have done great things with their lives or have laid the foundation to be successful into adulthood. Start now. Be the person you want to be.

Happy Independence Day (How Much Are You?)

flagsToday is July 4th, also known as Independence Day in the United States. It’s not just a day when adults don’t have to work and families have get togethers with a lot of grilled food and fireworks. It’s originally the day to celebrate the independence of the United States from England.

Today is a good day to talk about independence for teens. How independent are you (or your child if you’re a parent)? It’s not easy being a teen and dealing with peer pressure. It’s not just kids being asked to do drugs. There is a lot of pressure to conform and be like everyone else.

However, the truly popular people and those who find success later in life aren’t the ones conforming. They’re the ones leading. Every new trend in music, fashion, movies, sports, etc. required someone to break out of the mold and do something unique. However, it doesn’t happen much.

Following others is easy. It requires no risk. Being independent and doing your own thing…that requires boldness and risk. But, the rewards can be great. Instead of following trends, you’re creating them. And, others follow you. You’re the celebrity. You’re popular.

So, this independence day, don’t just sit around enjoying the food and fireworks. Think about what it really means to be independent and try to achieve it. You can start by being your best self and standing up for what you believe in.

Why Your Child Might Not Be Popular

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If you’re a parent visiting this page, you might look at your kids and wonder why they aren’t all that popular. Maybe you were popular in high school or perhaps you just feel your child isn’t developing socially in the way you think he or she should be.

While you should never pressure your kids to be too much like you or force them into a personality type that doesn’t fit them, there might be reasons why your child lacks social success. Here are a few reasons why your child might not be popular.

Shyness

In most cases, shy children have a hard time being popular. Usually popularity and social success require the ability to talk to and interact with others. However, shy kids usually lack the internal motivation to start conversations, build rapport, and continue friendships.

While a talented teen with outgoing friends can often become popular for those reasons, shyer “average” kids often have a hard time doing the heavy lifting of becoming popular (meeting strangers, asking people on dates, etc.).

Not Living In The Real World

Lots of children and teens withdraw from reality much more than they live in it. They might daydream at school and at home, get lost in books or video games, or prefer fantasizing to interacting with others. A lot of this is perfectly normal. But, if your kid lives too much outside of reality it can be a problem.

Popularity and social skills come from being grounded in the real world: playing sports, doing activities, interacting with friends, learning new things, etc. If your child isn’t doing any of this then he or she is likely not going to be popular.

Health And Fitness

While looks aren’t everything, they do matter, even at a young age. I’m not advocating for shaming or creating a negative body image. But, there’s rarely a reason for a teen to be overweight and out of shape except for overeating and not exercising. Aside from how someone looks, a person who is at a healthy weight and in at least normal shape has more energy and the ability to do so much more.

If your child gets no activity and eats a lot of unhealthy foods, then it’s probably time to get some help. Talk to a doctor or nutritionist and get your kid active. And, if you don’t eat right and work out, then you need to get on it too. Your kids learn from you!

So, if your child isn’t as popular as you like these might be a few of the reasons. We have advice and tips to help your child be more popular and develop social skills. In addition, check out our book on teen popularity. It has many useful tips to help any teen become more popular.