When I was a teacher, we were constantly addressing the problem of bullying. We brought in experts, launched programs, and made a grand effort to stop bullies.
Yet, I always felt the programs were pointless. Now, I realize I was half right. Anti-bullying programs aren’t just pointless; they might actually be causing more harm for the victims.
A recent study showed that students at schools with anti-bullying programs were actually more likely to become victims of bullies. Schools without the programs? Yep, they had fewer victims.
The study concluded that the programs, with their raising of awareness, succeeded. However, they were only successful at raising awareness with the bullies. Those doing the bullying were given new ideas of how to bully their victims (like through social media) and even learned ways to not get caught.
I also think that anti-bullying programs don’t work because they encourage two classes of kids: perpetrators and victims. The victims have no skills other than tattling to adults, so they stay victims. The bullies are actually good at their craft and even use anti-bullying programs to improve their methods!
This is all very disappointing because it means that bullied students are getting even more abused. It’s also sad because schools and the government have put millions of dollars into wasted, failing programs.
At the Popular Teen we believe that there is only one way to stop bullying for good: empower the victim. Otherwise, the bullies will just become better bullies and the victims will be more victimized. Until schools and other organizations realize the benefits of creating confident, strong teens, bullying will continue to be a problem and only get worse.
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