The teen dating scene can be pretty tough to navigate at times. Even though everyone expects teens to date, nobody really tells you how to date properly. So, there is a lot of awkwardness, shots in the dark, and plenty of mistake-making.
While dating will never become “easy” (even as an adult), we want to share a few of the most common teen dating traps you will face.
Seeking The One
I knew one couple from high school who ended up getting married later in life. However, the couples that didn’t make it made up the vast majority. Trying desperately to find “the one” is a huge dating trap. This mentality is a problem for two reasons. First, it can make you desperate, because you are convincing yourself that you need one person, and only one person, in your life to make you happy. Second, it might make you miss out on good people because they can’t live up to an impossible standard you have set.
The best thing you can do is to go on dates with different people and see if you click. Don’t think every relationship has to be your soul mate. Just relax, keep an open mind to various people, and have fun, realizing that most likely it won’t work out in the future, but that’s ok, because you can enjoy the relationship in the present.
Giving Up Your Identity
Just because you’re dating someone doesn’t mean you have to become just like the other person. If you have certain interests and values, don’t give them up just because the person you like has different ones. If the guy or girl wants you to change your identity then that person isn’t for you. True love means the person accepts you for who you are and won’t demand you change your core self.
Putting Up With Anything
We all have imperfections and issues. And, anyone who dates another human being will have to deal with those. But, some teens literally put up with anything their partner throws out. It could be mocking, ridicule, pressure to do things they don’t want to do, and even abuse. Some teens want to be loved so badly, they think they have to accept physical and emotional abuse.
When I was in high school, a girl stuck with her boyfriend through abuse, drug addiction, and daily drama, despite the fact that she just could have broken up with him and found hundreds of guys around her who weren’t abusers and drug addicts.
You don’t have to put up with things you don’t want to put up with. It might be hard to believe if you’re in a bad relationship, but there are good people out there who will treat you right. If you know deep down you deserve better, then you’ll need to find the courage to break it off.
You Date Because Your Friends Do
Just because your friends are dating doesn’t mean you need to date too. I’ve seen perfectly contented people, waiting for the right partner, suddenly turn into desperate people willing to settle for anyone just because their friends started dating.
If you want to date, then by all means do it. But, if you’re happy being single, don’t let your friends pressure you into doing something you don’t want. Everyone decides to start dating at different times. Do what you feel comfortable with and nothing more.
So, if you want to date, then keep these teen dating traps in mind. Avoid them and you’ll be much happier!