You may be unsure right now if you want to deal with the stress of it. People who are uncertain about going to Homecoming related activities typically feel that way for two reasons:
- Something keeps them fully celebrating the occasion (lack of a date, can’t afford a dress, etc.)
- They have an objection to something about Homecoming. For example, it could be they don’t like dances.
Those who have issues with Homecoming have my sympathy. Getting a date can be tough. For some guys and girls, dressing up is beyond the budget of their families. Some people just aren’t popular (especially with the opposite sex) and Homecoming is a painful reminder of that.
There are other teens who could probably go to the dance under normal circumstances, but for whatever reason, won’t. Typically, they have some objection. Maybe they think Homecoming is fake or too materialistic. They may just not like dressing up. Some people just don’t like dances.
If You’re Unsure About Homecoming
Be Honest With Yourself
Go or don’t go based on your true feelings. Cut through the excuses. If you can’t get a date, admit that to yourself and go out and try to find a date. However, if you truly think Homecoming is morally or ethically objectionable or if you just plain hate dances, then stay home. Just be honest with yourself. Do something else fun if that is what you really want.
You Can’t Get It Back
When you’re older, you can’t go back and remake the decision. While you can’t make your choices based on what you may feel when you’re forty, most people regret things they didn’t do. So, if you’re leaning towards going, then go. You may be miserable, but at least you went. I know several adults who regret skipping key events in their high school experiences. Better to find it boring then to look back and wish you had gone.
Nothing Is Perfect
Nothing in this life is perfect. Don’t think you can’t go to Homecoming just because the situation isn’t ideal. If your dress isn’t your first choice, go anyway. If your date is your third choice, go anyway. Don’t wait for the perfect scenario because it will never happen.
We Can Help
The next three days will offer you tips to make Homecoming as fun and successful as popular. If you worry about it, then let us help you.
If you decide to go, then:
If you show up, then don’t be a jerk the whole night if you’re there under less than ideal conditions (like being dateless). If you go, then be cool and have fun. Make the most of the situation, even if you hate Homecoming and your girlfriend dragged you.
Reach Out To Others
If you don’t have a date, then find one at the dance. If you can’t dance, find someone else who also can’t and dance with them. Try to make Homecoming as socially fulfilling as possible by reaching out to other people.
If you decide to stay home, then:
Don’t Be Obnoxious About Not Going
A lot of people like Homecoming and if you constantly bash it, they’ll typically assume you hate Homecoming because you’re unpopular. Don’t give them that impression. You don’t have to tell everyone all the facts about your decision, but you still can be direct and cool. For example, you could say, “It’s cool that you’re going, but Homecoming isn’t really my thing.”
Find An Alternative
Don’t stay in since you’ll probably end up being depressed because most of your friends will be at the dance. Go out with other friends, call up a girl you want to date from another school, or anything really. Plus, when you tell your friends you’re not going to the dance, they’ll know that you have other plans. That means you’re not just skipping out because you’re unpopular.
So, whether you go or stay, be cool and have fun. Be honest with yourself and stand by your decision once it’s too late to turn back.
Homecoming Survival Guide Series