If you are friendless and dateless as a teenager, then I have some even worse news for you. I’m sorry to have to tell you that meeting people during high school is easier than at any other point in your life. It’s because in high school, you have built in social networks.
That’s right. You’re basically forced to be around a bunch of people your own age with similar interests. When you get older that situation is never the same. So, if you can’t meet them when you’re fourteen with five hundred other fourteen year olds, you won’t be doing it when you’re thirty and around one other thirty year old.
The best way to meet people in high school, especially if you’re socially awkward, is through clubs and other school activities. The same is true of sports, although sports are a big time and fitness commitment that might not be for everyone. Clubs have the added advantage of having members of the opposite sex there.
With school activities you have several advantages to meeting others:
-Large numbers of people in the same area
-These people generally share the same interests
-They’re open to interaction or they wouldn’t be in the group
This means that you are around people who want to be around you (at least in theory) and like to do what you do. While you still have to use your social skills and be confident and assertive, you’re at least in an environment where it’s possible to succeed.
So, if you’re currently not involved in clubs or want a fresh start, find out what kinds of activities (both in school and after school) your school offers. Find one that you either enjoy or think looks fun. Then, go to a meeting or join. Once there, reach out to people and try to bond with them.
Use the school’s social structure to your advantage and hopefully you can start meeting people and getting dates.