What is the number one thing that destroys a teen’s ability to be popular? Although creepiness is the biggest deal breaker, for someone who is “normal” there is one thing that ultimately makes a person unpopular. They’re boring. And, being boring is never popular.
Here’s why. Being popular is ultimately about providing something of value to others. Look at the most popular people, not only locally but in the world. They give others what they want. It could be athletic ability, acting skills, entertainment, humor, or even being good looking. Yes, others like to look at those who are good looking.
It’s because most people want excitement and happiness. They want things that they value. So, they enjoy laughing, watching exciting sports events, seeing great movies, etc. What don’t most people value? Boredom. That’s right. I don’t know anyone who says “I wish I was bored more often.”
So, if you’re not popular at all, it’s likely because you’re boring. What do you bring to friendships, relationships, your school, your job, etc.? Is it excitement, fun, and entertainment? Or is it just boredom (or even drama)? If you aren’t exciting in the least bit it might be time to think about the issue.
So, don’t be boring. Find a way to be more exciting and popular. Play an instrument, join a sports team, get in great shape, get a makeover, learn to be funny, increase your confidence, etc. Find ways to be more exciting and you’ll likely be more popular too. And, another benefit? Exciting people usually live exciting lives!