Every guy has tried this strategy to get a date. He notices girls like sweet-talking guys and getting compliments. So, in an effort to comply with what girls (say they) want, he becomes the most gentlemanly man possible, becoming the nicest nice guy our nice world has ever seen. And, in the process he becomes the least attractive guy possible.
I certainly don’t want to be accused of asking teen guys to be jerks. However, I want this essay to be a helpful article to teen boys that also tells the truth. And, the truth is, females of all ages aren’t attracted to guys whose only quality is niceness.
I know it sounds bad to say, but it’s true. Does being nice get you good grades? Make you a starting football player? Get you a raise at work? Make your teen rock band superstars? Nope. Niceness is good, but it doesn’t really get you anything beyond friendliness (hopefully) in return. That’s good, but it doesn’t help you reach your goals.
The same is true of dating. While girls prefer nice guys, niceness, by itself isn’t considered attractive. It’s just neutral. How many guys would look at a girl they thought was ugly, but because she’s nice want to date her? Not many. It’s the same with girls. They like guys who are confident, funny, smart, edgy, talented, good looking, and many other things. But niceness, while being expected, isn’t one of them.
So, if you think that because you’re nice and you deserve a date…think again. You don’t. No one deserves a date. But, if you have other things going for you, then you’ll likely get a date. But, still be nice of course. But also work on being confident, becoming a leader, learning an instrument, playing a sport, etc. Find ways to be excellent, confident, and better looking. Then, you’ll be more likely to get a date.
But, don’t just be a nice guy. That isn’t enough.