I was a teen guy once, and I remember how horrible it felt at times to be in the dating “game.” The situation is even worse because most guys and girls aren’t really taught successful strategies for attracting decent people. Instead it most guys are left to figure it out, which means a lot of trial-and-error. Here are four major mistakes teen guys make that keep them from getting girls. Address these concerns and getting girls will be much easier.
You Talk Too Much
Many people talk a lot when they get nervous. Unfortunately, being nervous pretty much describes virtually every teenage guy when he is around a girl he likes. This means a lot of guys just keep talking and talking (and talking), thinking that by doing so they are winning over the female.
To win over a girl, you have to listen to her. You have to make her feel good when she is around you. If you can’t take a break from talking, she won’t get a single word in, and will leave the experience less than happy. Notice that a lot of the guys that get a lot of women are actually fairly quiet at times. Successful guys understand the importance of letting a girl talk, as well as the importance of allowing confident body language do a lot of the “talking.” Also, since pretty much every person recognizes talking a lot as a sign of nervousness, you will come across as nervous and insecure if you talk too much.
You Think “Guy Talk” Impresses A Girl
I knew guys who were shocked they couldn’t get a girl. In my relatively rural area, they had big trucks, wore camo to school, and looked the “man’s man” part. They always talked about fishing, sports, and other manly topics. Unfortunately this doesn’t necessarily translate into women liking you. You’ll notice the guys in your school with dates probably talk to girls about things that actually interest the girls involved. I don’t mean acting like a girl (see below), but making your conversations more along the lines of things that will hold a girl’s interest. For example, telling a girl about your new fishing line or your comic books is probably a bad idea. Telling her about how peaceful fishing is, and then letting her express where she finds some peace, will likely get her to talk to you.
You Think “Girl Talk” Impresses A Girl
Many guys make the mistake of taking too much interest in a girl, or acting like a girl. Yes, this will get them to like you, but only as a friend. Pay attention to guys that get women; they can hold a woman’s interest, but they don’t talk like women, nor talk about the same topics. So stay out of the gossip and drama. Don’t brag about how much you love “Twilight” and all that. The key is to confidently hold your own opinions. You can talk about things that interest a woman, but definitely disagree with her if you really do disagree. If she is telling you all the details about the new girly movie, feel free to tell her how you hated it rather than agreeing with her just to “impress”
You Buy Her Stuff
Most teenage guys try way too hard. They see movies where guys spend loads of money to win over a girl: flowers, chocolates, jewelry, and other gifts. You really can’t buy someone’s love. Don’t believe me? Imagine for a second if a girl you weren’t attracted to at all started giving you a bunch of stuff. Would that make you suddenly attracted to her? Probably not. The gifts would just creep you out. This is how you come across to a girl! She is either attracted to you or she isn’t.
You can do things to increase her level of attraction (like following the tips on this website), but buying her things isn’t one of them. I knew guys that would buy jewelry for girls they didn’t even know. That is creepy. You are far more likely to attract a girl by walking over and talking to her than by shyly handing her a gift when you don’t even know her.