Parents can be awful. They embarrass you in front of your friends, keep you from doing all the fun things you want, and many other awful things that can make it seem like they’re your worst enemy instead of the providers of your genetic material. You might even wonder if they really love you at all!
With the exception of abusive and neglectful ones, most parents do love their kids and want the best for them. No parents are perfect, but the vast majority at least try to give their kids the best. With that in mind, here are four reasons you should thank your parents today (and everyday).
They Pay A Lot
Sadly, most parents don’t teach their kids much about the budget and when it does occur it’s usually in the context of the child being told “no” about an expensive item. However, be aware that your parents pay a lot for you. And, have been doing it for years. Kids aren’t cheap. The average pregnancy costs six to eight thousand dollars and even with insurance your parents likely paid at least twenty percent of that. That doesn’t include baby items like diapers, car seats, etc.
A bigger house for kids isn’t cheap either. Neither is the food, clothes, medical care, toys, and other stuff your parents have given you over the years. It costs 241,000 dollars on average to raise a kid for 18 years. That’s over $13,000 a year! To put it in perspective, without you, in most areas of the USA, your parents could’ve paid for the home of their dreams. But, they chose to give it to you. And, it’s not always easy.
If you’ve ever worked with kids, whether it’s babysitting, helping a teacher, or being with a younger sibling, you know it’s really hard work. But, in those circumstances you get a break. Imagine doing that all the time and having to deal with it 24/7 if something comes up. Yeah, if two hours of babysitting a four year old is tough, try all day.
And, there aren’t any manuals for kids. No one is born knowing how to parent a child. It’s struggle and trial and error. It’s emotionally and mentally (and physically) exhausting at times. You definitely have your problems as a teen. But, guess what? Your parents do too. And, guess what one of them might be?
Teens Are Hard
Now, I don’t think kids are “problems.” But, a lot of the struggles parents have come from their kids, especially teenage ones. That bad boy that you absolutely love but your dad hates? Yeah, that’s really hard on him. He might overreact at times, but it’s because it kills him that his daughter would be put in harm’s way.
What about bad grades? Your parents aren’t just sticklers. They genuinely want the best for you. And when it seems you don’t want it for yourself it can hurt. And, teens disobey a lot, back talk and get into trouble more often than adults. Teens aren’t easy to raise. But, your parents still love you and try. That has to count for something. Just remember, that everything you’re doing to your parents? Well, planning on having kids?
They’ve Given Up A Lot
Think about the life you want as a teen: freedom, money, flexibility, choices to pursue your wildest dreams. You parents felt the same way! Then they had you. I’m kidding a little bit. But, once people have kids, they lose almost all of that. Things like going back to college full-time, taking dream vacations, doing wild adventures like climbing Mt. Everest become nearly impossible with the responsibility of kids.
But, it’s more than that. Even things you take for granted, like hanging with friends when you feel like it or playing sports, are hard for your parents. You might accuse your parents of having no life. But, guess what? They probably have no life by your definition because you are their life, financially, socially, and otherwise. They probably still want to do all the things they used to love, but they’ve happily given those up because they love you.
I’m not telling you this to make you feel bad or guilty. I just want you to know. Share this with other teens (and parents) because I think it will be useful. Oh, and make sure to actually thank your parents. They deserve at least that.