Do you like adults? If you’re like the majority of teens, the answer would likely be “not really.” If you dislike adults (or most of them), it’s probably because adults, like teachers and parents, stop you from getting your way. But, it doesn’t have to be that way. You can get your way with adults, at least more often. We have tips to do just that.
Lots of teens are rude to adults, especially their parents and teachers. And, they act surprised when they don’t get their way! Let me share an old proverb: you catch more flies with honey than vinegar. In other words, you are more likely to get your way when you’re actually nice.
So, don’t act angry and cop an attitude when dealing with adults. You may not feel great about the person, but if you want your way, it helps to be sweet and nice about it.
Sometimes you may think you’re being reasonable, but your request is actually a big inconvenience for others. For example, maybe you want the car for five hours, but your dad has to work. If you know that, then go to your dad with a compromise. Ask for the car for three hours instead of five. And let him know you are doing it because you know he has to work.
People like to think they’re getting something in return when they are asked to do something, even if it’s just understanding for their circumstances. So, if you attempt to compromise with adults or give something to them, they’ll be more likely to give you your way.
You’re more likely to get your way if you can get someone to like you. So, if you want something from an adult, try to get to know that person a little first. If you have a teacher you want a favor from, a few days before you ask it, get to know him or her a little bit.
If adults feel that you have a genuine connection with them and that you’re not simply being self centered, they’ll be more likely to consider your request.
If you don’t get your way with an adult, for goodness sakes, don’t pout and throw a royal fit afterwards. While it may feel good to act that way, it won’t help you get your way in the future. As a former teacher and current parent, let me tell you an important truth. If you get a reputation as a whiny brat, you are much less likely to get what you want down the line.
So, hopefully these tips will help you in getting your way with the adults in your life. Just remember, sometimes they will say no and that’s good. You don’t want them to let you do something stupid and dangerous anyway.