People love attention and admiration. So, it follows that getting attention is a good thing, right? While a lot of attention is good, if it’s for the wrong reasons, it can ultimately be a bad thing.
Obviously being in the news for a hit song is good attention, while being in the news for doing something embarrassing or criminal is bad attention (at least for most people).
When it comes to being popular at school, you’ll want to keep in mind the difference between good and bad attention. And, I’m going to assume in this article that you aren’t acting like a delinquent or criminal.
In this article, I want to discuss the difference between attention that makes a person popular, admired, and well-liked, and attention that makes them unpopular.
Anything that gets you noticed in a way that draws people to you as a friend, admirer, or romantic interest is good attention. So, this means being successful in sports and other activities, taking on leadership roles (even informally), being well-known in real life or social media, getting a reputation for being funny (or just being funny), or being known as someone whom others can confide in, etc.
While being true to yourself is good (like if you’re not athletic, get attention through other means that more naturally fit with your personality), make sure you’re getting attention through things people value and admire. Otherwise, you might get bad attention.
This is when you get noticed, but it might not be for likable things. It can include dressing in a freaky way, being creepy, making inappropriate comments, doing outrageous things (that lack any sort of purpose like humor), etc. Sticking out can be good. But, if you stick out in a bad way, it’s not going to make you popular.
While we’d never ask anyone to not be themselves, don’t act in a way that makes you appear creepy or weird. You can be yourself and still do so in a way that doesn’t make people feel uncomfortable.
So, make sure to be aware of good attention vs. bad attention when trying to be popular and be liked. You definitely want to be a leader and set trends. But, you don’t want to be so far outside of them that you makes others feel creeped out or uncomfortable.