We talked about how no woman is worth the misery last week. Also, no woman (or man) is worth ruining your reputation on Facebook or other social media by turning into a giant whiner. This is especially true if you’re a man.
Guys have feelings just like everyone else. Sometimes we feel depressed and anxious and maybe even a little self-pity (or for some dudes, a l0t). However, in your public life you shouldn’t let these feelings be expressed. Right or wrong, it’s considered low value and pathetic.
This is especially the case with women. If they’re already attracted to you, then you can share your emotions with them (to an extent). But, if you’re not, then women almost always want to pity you when you get down and express it. They’ll give you attention, but what types of people do they pity? Friends and weaker people. They don’t usually want to date those groups.
So, this post is primarily for guys. Don’t be whiny and seek self-pity on your social media or in real life. Being mopey may feel good to you (it shouldn’t, but this is another issue), but it’s not going to solve your problems. In fact, if your problem is a lack of a girlfriend or friends, then it’ll likely make your problems worse.
You shouldn’t suffer in silence and everyone needs to vent. But, do it to a professional who keeps confidentiality (like your school guidance counselor). Or, do it with your family members or long term friends. They will accept it and help you without being creeped out or losing respect for you. But, don’t be “that guy” who is constantly complaining.
So, guys, watch the whining. It’s not attractive, it’s not getting you dates, and it’s only making people feel sorry for you. Find your outlets for your emotions, but keep your public image confident, attractive, and high value.