OK, you’re going to Homecoming. Next, you’ll have to determine if you want to bring a date. In most cases, it’s expected. However, if you don’t have a date, it’s not the end of the world. Today’s Homecoming Survival Guide will look at how to get a date…and how to handle it if you can’t get one.
If You Want A Date
If you have a steady boyfriend or girlfriend, then the date aspect of Homecoming is no problem. However, if you are single, then it becomes more difficult. If you’ve never really dated at all, then finding a girl or guy for Homecoming seems like an impossible task. While nothing is guaranteed, below are a few tips to get yourself a date. Because the dating game is different for guys and girls, I’ve divided my tips into three different sections: for guys, for girls, and for both.
Just Ask…But See Below
Our culture says that asking for a date is your job (not the girl’s). So, if you want a girl to go to Homecoming with you, you’re going to have to man up. You can’t wait for the girl to ask. So, you’ll have to get the nerve to approach her.
But Build Some Rapport Too
Guys are attracted to girls primarily visually. In other words, a guy can see a girl from afar, barely know her, and still want to take her to a dance, date her, etc. However, women are different. They judge a guy based on personality far more. So, when a guy they barely know randomly asks them out it can be creepy or off-putting, unless they have a huge crush on that guy. So, before you “just ask,” get to know her a little. Make some conversation. Flirt. Then, when you ask her to homecoming a few weeks later, it will seem natural and she will be prepped.
If you’re nervous about just going up and asking her, then find a funny and clever way to do it instead. Use social media, ask her with a poster, send her on a scavenger hunt, etc. If you can get her thinking you’re unique, creative, funny, and a little edgy, she’ll probably be more likely to say yes. However, make sure you know the girl at least likes you first (even as an acquaintance) before you try something creative or it could backfire immensely. You don’t want to be the guy who was rejected publicly. If you have any doubt, don’t make a huge show of asking her out, or you’ll look ridiculous.
The guy has the job of asking you out, but you still have to let him know you’re available (not only in your schedule, but also as a willing partner). Playing hard to get will simply show most guys you don’t like them, especially since the thought of asking you out is likely terrifying them to begin with. Instead, subtly let him know you want to go with him. You can do this in a few ways:
- Drop hints (guys can be socially dense, so keep dropping)
- Have your friends let him know
- Don’t be “anti-homecoming” (In other words, let him and others know you are interested in going).
For Guys and Girls
Use Your Networks
If you have friends, then use them to get dates. Don’t appear desperate, but let your friends help you know who is single and looking. They can even put in a good word about you with guys or girls you may like. Let your friends drop hints. Don’t try to go it alone.
Go With A Friend
If it comes down to the wire, then ask a friend to be your date. It’s better to have a non-romantic date then no date at all. You get the chance to dress up, go to dinner with someone you like, and have a companion for the night. Just don’t expect too much more because friendships rarely turn romantic. Although, you never know!
If You Can’t Find A Date
If you can’t find a date but you still want to go, then just do it. It’s OK and lots of people have fun without a guy or girl with them. However, to make the most of Homecoming you should still:
Find a Group
Go with a group of friends so you’re not alone. You’ll be happier to be with friends. Also, if you are truly alone at Homecoming, it could make you look creepy or unpopular.
Avoid the Date Aspects of Homecoming
Don’t be the weirdo doing the romantic stuff alone. In other words, don’t get your photo taken by yourself, etc. Be cool and confident about going alone, but don’t try to insert yourself in the couples activities. I knew a guy in high school who tried this. He got old very quickly. Participate in group activities, but don’t barge in when the couples are “being romantic.”
Try To Get With Other Single People
If you know other people don’t have dates, then hang out with them during the more couples-oriented events. If you know there are girls or guys who are there alone, then ask them to dance or hang out with you. It never hurts and you may actually leave with a date!
So, whether you have a date or don’t, Homecoming can still be a fun and enjoyable experience. Stay tuned tomorrow for part three of our survival guide. There we tackle issues related to clothing and dressing up.
Homecoming Survival Guide Series