Many teens have a hard time getting heard by adults. I don’t mean adults can’t literally hear them. In many cases the adults in their lives hear them long enough to either yell at them or ignore them. However, to get adults to actually listen to you and respond to you, you may have to try a few techniques.
First, adults can be busy. Take your teachers. They have a lot on their plates and can be extremely busy, especially certain times of the year. So, when you have a crisis, chances are it’s not a crisis for them and they have other things to do. So, keep in mind that adults are busy when talking to them. Don’t assume that you deserve to take first priority.
Second, sometimes teens have an entitled attitude. So, your crisis or your needs turn into everyone else’s crisis and needs. You’ll have to get a grip and realize the world doesn’t revolve around you. If you have a need, by all means approach an adult. But, also be aware that you may not get immediate attention. If you go into a conversation with that in mind, you’ll likely get more respect.
Finally, have a good attitude. You may be having a bad day or maybe you don’t like the adult you’re talking to. Believe it or not, that is going to be pretty obvious to the adult in question. Yes, we can tell when you don’t like us! And, if you’re asking for a favor and you come across as not liking us? Well, you’re not likely to get that favor. At least pretend you like the person you’re talking to.
These tips may not get you everything you desire, but they should at least help you get a fair hearing from the adults in your life. Best of luck with that!