As a teacher, I sometimes overhear my students say things like “I don’t care if I am popular,” “I don’t need a girlfriend” “Having a boyfriend sucks,” or “who needs friends anyway??” One of my former students in particular is always proclaiming on Facebook how she is “done with men,” which is probably one of the most ironic statements of all time, considering she is always talking about which new man she happens to be with.
So, most of the time people declare they don’t want to be popular, it really means they do. And why wouldn’t they? Being popular means being loved, admired, and valued, three traits that all humans desire, unless they are total loners or sociopaths.
To be popular is to very much human. Popularity has gotten a bad name, because so many idiots appear popular, like bullies and jerks, when in reality, people kiss up to them out of fear. Popularity, when it is defined correctly, is a great thing that all people want.
The bad news is that if you sit around all day and declare how you don’t care about popularity, even when you do deep down, you will never learn the skills it takes to be popular. The good news is that if you actually want to change and become popular, we can show you how. Just keep stopping by our website community. The Popular Teen is where we get together and talk about how to be popular, without compromising your values and true self.