Everyone has been there at some point as a teen. You have a good friend or friends. That person gets a boyfriend or girlfriend and starts spending a lot of time with them. Then, next thing you know, you see your former friend once or twice a month. And, it’s not fun at all.
I had a friend in high school who fit this pattern. He would hang out with me a lot when he was single. Then, we got a girlfriend, I’d never see him. Until, he was single again, of course.
I don’t fault him for doing this. However, it’s not a really healthy pattern. Most normal relationships don’t involve being around the other person all the time. It usually means that you’ll end up getting tired of the other person quickly. In addition, it’s easy to miss out on people’s faults and problems when you aren’t around anyone else.
The best way to handle a friendship when you start dating is to balance friendship and dating. It might seem hard since you want to be around your crush all the time. But, remember you’ve likely known your friends for a long time and they’ve probably been there for you. Your boyfriend or girlfriend is new and exciting, but you can’t forget those who’ve been there for you.
One thing you might want to do is to schedule time for your friends. Perhaps on a weekend, you can spend one night with your friends and another with your date. Or you can find creative ways to do things together, like double dating or events with a group of friends. This way you’re being fair to your friends and your boyfriend or girlfriend.
Because there is one thing I can tell you as an adult: boyfriends and girlfriends come and go. But, your friends, especially the close ones, will be with you for a long, long time. Don’t let a temporary crush or love get in the way of that.