If I had a dollar for every time one of my students said “my parents hate me” then I’d be wealthy. Many teens feel disconnected from their parents. There’s a huge generation gap and there’s often a lot of anger and lack of communication involved in child-parent arguments. If you think your parents hate you, we have some advice.
Keep in mind, what we say below is only for parents and children who don’t get along. If you are a teen who is being abused, either physically or otherwise, then you need to tell an adult like a teacher, guidance counselor, caseworker, or police officer.
They Want What’s Best For You (Really)
I’m not here to take the side of parents. But, in most cases your parents really do want what they at least think is best for you. They love you and want you to be the best you can be.
So, they are going to want to keep you from people and things they consider to be dangerous. While you may not agree with their views, remember when you fight that they do love you and want the best for you.
Listen To Them
If you think “my parents hate me” all the time then you probably aren’t really listening to your parents. Believe it or not, your parents aren’t all bad. Try to actually listen to to them. Hear them out and acknowledge them. They might actually have some wisdom that you could benefit from. Ideally, they’ll give you the same courtesy and listen to you.
Find Common Interests
It probably seems like you have nothing in common with your mom and dad. That can’t be true! Likely, you could meet a total stranger on the street and you’d probably find at least a few things you could share. Try to do this with your parents and actually grow closer based on your interests.
Maybe your dad likes football too. Watch it together on Sunday or go to a game. Perhaps your mom enjoys Pinterest. Maybe the two of you can spend time sharing recipes there.
Keep the Communication Lines Open
Tell your parents how you feel. Open them up to your life. If you think your parents hate you, then you’re likely not talking a whole lot (or at all). Don’t shut them out of your life. Update them on your school situation. Keep them in the loop with your friends. Find ways to involve them in your life.
Feelings of hatred usually build when people aren’t listening to each other. When people who don’t get along actually talk to each other, much of the fighting stops. Share with your parents and ask them to share with you.
So, if you’re thinking my parents hate me, try to reach out and establish a better relationship. Meet your parents halfway at the very least. I hope you find our tips helpful.