Being a teen can be tough, but one of the toughest issues teens face is the dating game. And, good teen dating advice can be really hard to find.
However, through our experience with teens and the latest research, we’ve come up with four essential tips to get dates. Two are for everyone, while number three is for girls and four is for guys.
Also, always stick to your values when dating. Never give up your morals for a guy or girl. It’s not worth it. We also have an article on how to identify unhealthy teenage relationships.
Actually Let The Person Know
When I was a teacher, I always knew which guy liked which girl and who had crushes on each other. However, in many cases, the actual people being liked had no idea! I know it sounds revolutionary, but if you like a guy or a girl, tell them. This is really the simplest piece of teenage dating advice.
You don’t want to be too crazy about it, but you can say something like, “I really like you. Maybe we should go out for a movie.” It’s friendly and non-committal, but it gets the point across. Don’t lose out on dates because you lack the courage to tell the other person. Also, it’s not 1955. The girls can let the guys know how they feel.
Don’t Overthink Dating
Romance typically just happens. Planning it, thinking about it, and trying to set up perfect scenarios usually will fail. So, when you want to date someone, just take the simplest and easiest way to dating. Usually that involves, if you’re a girl, flirting around the guy, and, if you’re a guy actually asking her out. It’s not that hard.
However, we often make it hard. And, when we make it hard, we usually end up dateless. If you get nervous or want to overthink it, remember KISS: Keep It Simple Stupid. Following that philosophy could actually get you a real kiss down the line.
For Guys: Be Confident
Girls of all ages like guys who are confident. It’s a common sense teen dating tip, but people ignore it. In fact, some girls like guys who are jerks or outright cocky. It’s just the way women are programmed to behave. So, if given a choice between a boring, bland guy and a cocky leader, they’ll almost always choose the leader.
This means you have to be confident and believe in yourself. Own your actions. Stand up for what you believe in. Be relaxed and love yourself. Walk with a little swagger. Get people to follow you. The girls will love it. We wrote an entire article on tips to be cocky if you need even more help.
For Girls: Be Open and Flirt
A lot of guys won’t work hard to date a girl. This means you can play hard to get a little, but there’s a point where the guy will just give up (even the confident ones). Make sure you show the guy through your words and actions you want to date him (at least in theory).
Also, make sure to flirt. And, do it frequently with the guy you like. Guys can be very dense and second guess themselves. Keep up the flirting so he can be really sure that you like him. Guys who lack confidence may need the extra assurance. Confident guys will just like you more for it!
Best of luck dating! Our teen dating advice should get you started. Check back often to read our other tips related to both popularity and dating.