This is one of our many posts for parents. But, if you’re a teen, you still can probably learn something from it.
Teenage peer pressure is a real issue. In fact, it’s even an issue for adults! It just comes in different forms. However, it’s a greater problem for teenagers because teens have less self confidence and lack the resources and skills to deal with the peer pressure.
So, as a parent, you’ll have to help your kids not only deal with the peer pressure, but develop the necessary skills to confront their peers and stand up to them. Here are our tips on teenage peer pressure, especially how to help your child.
Kids who can resist peer pressure are those who are confident and comfortable with who they are. If your son or daughter encounters teenage peer pressure, they will have no trouble standing up to it if they love themselves and truly believe in their chosen values.
However, a teen who doesn’t have a lot of confidence and self esteem will give into peer pressure more often than not.
Kids with the strongest personalities often lead the way when it comes to teen peer pressure. And, sadly, these kids don’t always have the best values. So, if you want your teen to resist negative influences, then make sure to raise a leader.
Let your teenager set the tone in relationships with his or her peers and guide them. Just make sure your kid has some values and isn’t leading his follower friends down the wrong path!
Assertiveness is Key
There are many kids who are leaders and confident, but have a hard time asserting themselves. After all teen peer pressure is difficult to resist. Most teens simply want to fit in and be liked. Standing up to friends can be tough and may result in being left out.
Teaching your teenager assertiveness is very, very important. Remember that assertiveness usually involves being firm and in control (and not a jerk). Being too passive or out of control (aggressive) won’t help your child.
This is perhaps the most important part of helping loved ones resist teenage peer pressure. If you can’t resist pressure from other adults or can’t stand up for your own values, then how do you expect your children to successfully do it?
I know many parents who tell their teen children not to judge or bully others when the parents are highly judgmental and bullies. Make sure your actions match your words when it comes to the resistance of peer pressure.
So, hopefully you can help your child (or yourself) better resist peer pressure. In the end, being resistant to the negative influence of friends will help your child be safer and more well adjusted.