Technology is awesome. It can connect people who previously had no way of being connected. After all, it’s nice to have a contact list fifty people long (or more) and be able to connect with them instantly (at least in theory). However, for many teens texting isn’t a great way to be more social and popular. Rather, being totally focused on texting or other phone activities stops teens from reaching their full social potential.
I don’t know how many times I’ve been out, at malls, restaurants, and even social events and I see teens and adults with their noses buried in their phones! It’s impossible to be social and popular if you’re staring at a screen while ignoring everyone else around you. I don’t intend to pick on teens, but since this site is devoted to teenagers, this is for you! Here is how you can use texting to your social advantage without going overboard.
First, here’s what you should avoid. The main thing is to quit using your phone as a social crutch. Most people of all ages who text in social situations don’t do it because they like texting. They text because they are too nervous to interact with others. Texting or playing around on a phone is a socially acceptable way to ease social anxiety in public (and avoid having to face it). If you don’t believe me, go to a party or other event and watch all the people playing on their phones.
So, put down the phone when you’re supposed to be out having fun and meeting people. Instead of texting a friend or playing around on Facebook, actually get up the nerve to talk to new people. If you’re a girl, staring into your phone tells guys that you’re not open to interaction with them. So, if you are a single girl (and stuck that way), it could be because you’re staring at a screen while cute guys move onto other women.
The best way to use your phone to actually become more popular and social is to win people over through text and online interaction, then get them out in person. Or, when you’re out use your phone to instantly get the person’s number or social media contact information. Then, you can followup that way in a low pressure way.
So, use your phone to your advantage. Don’t be like most teens and texting, which hinders their success with meeting others and getting dates. Check out our other posts for even more detailed advice.