A few weeks ago, I wanted to contact a Facebook friend of mine about a project I was working on. I went to my friends list and she wasn’t there. I found her profile and noticed “add friend” as an option. I had been unfriended. I think I’ll survive.
We’ve all had a similar experience if we’ve been on social media for longer than a couple of weeks. Experiencing an unfriend, an unfollow, or any number of social media rejections, has become a common experience. Oh, and you’ll survive too.
Maybe you’re not only the victim of a defriending, but perhaps you frequently do it to others. In fact, November 17th is even considered National Unfriend Day. This is one holiday you shouldn’t celebrate. I don’t think you should unfriend anyone, unless you’re being harassed, bullied or threatened. Here are the three primary reasons.
How much effort does it take to leave someone on your friends list? Since you’ve already moved your finger to hit “confirm,” the answer is “none.” Even scrolling past someone’s stupidity on your feed only takes minimal effort.
By keeping others, even the drama queens and kings on your friend’s list, you are showing you’re the cool one. You show that you’re not bothered by it. You are able to relax and deal with anybody and be the bigger person. However, taking the effort to actually unfriend someone shows that you’ve gone out of your way to be uncool.
You May Need That Person
Remember how I was going to talk to my (former) friend about a project? Well, let’s just say she’s not going to be involved in that project! The same is true when you unfriend others. They will have no way of contacting you if they have opportunities for you. And, since you’ve defriended them, they’re not likely to find other ways to connect with you.
You never know what opportunities could arise just by being Facebook friends with someone. Maybe it’s concert tickets, help with homework, or a possible friend. There are countless stories of people finding success by knowing the right people on social media. Perhaps the “right” person to help you in some way is that guy or girl you recently considered unfriending!
Having Lots of Online Friends Is A Blessing
Maybe you have a lot of friends or people you follow and you want to trim your list a little. Why? Seriously. Having lots of people at your fingertips is an awesome thing, especially if you hope to go anywhere in life.
We live in an era when knowing people is extremely important for any type of success and popularity. Justin Bieber’s mom promoted him on social media. Do you think it was better for her to have more Facebook friends or fewer? In the case of social media, I believe more is always better.
So, keep those Facebook friends and continue following those people on Twitter. Unless they’re bullying you, then they’re not doing you any harm just sitting there on your friends list. But, you never know when just having them could benefit you in major ways.