A friend of mine talked about some bullying he experienced in junior high school. He was smaller than average and mentioned how some of the other students picked on him. I know him now as a funny and popular guy.
So, I asked him how he stopped the bullying. He answered quickly: he made them laugh. Although he didn’t have the size to impress them, he did in another important way: through humor.
If you want to be popular as a guy, and you don’t have some of the other traits that teens tend to value (like being athletic, tall, fit, tough, good looking), then being funny is a great way to go. I know guys who have nothing else going for them, but because of their sense of humor, they are popular. In fact, they have many friends and get dates with beautiful girls.
I think human beings love comedians because humor is a stress-reliever. In fact, some scientists think that humor was originally a way for the tribe to relieve stress after difficult circumstances. Think back to the days of cave men. They would come back from a stressful hunt. Guys would be injured and everyone would be on edge, filled with adrenaline. But, the funny guy in the group would say something, then everyone would laugh and the stress would be gone.
Humor has many benefits. It lowers blood pressure, eases stress, and causes us to worry less. Basically, laughing makes us feel good. Even if you have nothing else going for you, if you can get people at your school laughing, then you have a great chance of being popular.
Humor, in guys especially, is a very attractive trait. In fact, women find guys who are “humor generators” attractive, and guys from women who appreciate their humor more attractive. Just being funny can be enough to get you dates!
Everywhere I go, I attribute my social success with making people laugh. I throw out funny comments, make witty observations, and pretty much get others to the point where they’re smiling and laughing. While I have other things going for me (like being fit and confident), humor is still one of my greatest weapons when it comes to being popular.
It can be that way for you too. Be funny and you too will have many friends and get girls to like you. In future posts, we will explain ways to be more funny as well as the different kinds of humor.