We offer a lot of anti-bullying advice here at the Popular Teen because it’s probably one of the top issues that affects teens. Today, we want to discuss what makes a good victim. In other words, what do people do that makes them appealing to bullies?
Bullies often target people they perceive as different from them. This doesn’t have to be someone who is considered “weird” by everyone else. A fashion forward guy might get picked on by another guy who dresses in a more traditional way. A person who is gay might get bullied because he’s not straight, etc.
Bullies are often very insecure. They have trouble with their own issues, so they go after people who are different to feel powerful and a part of their group. It proves, in a sick way, their own power and ability to fit in.
Those With Less Confidence
Bullies are often only tough on the surface. But, in most cases, a bully isn’t going to mess with someone who will break his face. The average bully wants an easy reaction or hopes to get his or her jollies without attracting too much attention.
Consequently, bullies often target others with less confidence. They want someone whom they can attack without fear of reprisal. That’s why one way to confront bullies is to actually stand up to them. Many bullies won’t consider you worth the effort and move onto someone with less confidence.
Bullies typically like reactors because it gives them the emotional response they want from bullying. So, if they see two people side by side and one blows them off and the other gets upset, they’re likely going for the upset one in the future.
Bullies do get something out of bullying. It makes many of them feel better and more powerful. If you don’t give them a reaction, then you take away that power and sense of victory.
In my personal experience with bullying students, bullies often go for students who are in a weaker position. I don’t mean physical weakness but this can be a part of it. Bullies are the types who like to kick you when you’re down. So, people with family issues, emotional problems, handicaps, etc. are often targets of bullying.
I think this is because bullies want the easiest job possible and people with their own share of problems are less likely to stand up for themselves. In addition, they may have self esteem issues that prevent them from even telling others about their problems. This allows the bully to continue to victimize them with little fear of being confronted.
So, hopefully now you have an idea of what makes a good victim. People who have the four previously listed traits should be aware that they might be more prone to being picked on by bullies.