You are likely meeting people that you have a crush on. You feel very strong attraction to this person. And, in some cases, they might be feeling it back. Assuming that the two of you get together, you’ll be in a relationship. The temptation will be to fall in love. After all, that’s what happens when you meet someone you find attractive, right? The songs and movies tell us that.
When it comes to love, I’m going to add a little reasonable discussion to what is usually a very irrational topic. Love is an emotional feeling. It’s often beyond our control. However, when it comes to love, wait, even if it’s just a little bit.
What I mean is that when you meet someone and you feel the connection, resist the urge to instantly fall in love. You can use your brain to hold back on those feelings at least a little. Falling in love gives your brain a chemical bath. Dopamine rises and serotonin goes down. The dopamine makes us feel good, which is why people like being in love.
But, those chemicals can also do crazy things to us. Studies show that being “in love” with a person makes us overlook his or her faults (even abuse). The chemical swirl makes us do stupid things we wouldn’t normally do. People with “in love” brain chemistry have serotonin levels as low as those with Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder. This is why you can’t get that special someone out of your head, and seem obsessed with seeing them. And, these chemicals of attraction make breaking up absolutely horrible.
That’s why, when it comes to love, wait a little bit. Get to know the person and his or her true colors. Give of yourself slowly and over a period of time. Don’t let yourself instantly fall in love just because the person is cute and seems cool. Your brain is literally tricking you and coloring your perceptions.
Because once you fall in love, it’s hard to make sound decisions about the person. And, when the breakup occurs, it’ll be awful. Your heart will be like the image to the left. Except that it won’t be nearly as tasty.