You know exactly what I’m talking about. A person you know gets stressed in some way, then has a mini-meltdown (or not so mini). Most people around them either find it annoying, want to offer “help,” or feel awkward. Other terms for this outburst are melting down, going off the handle, or even exploding if anger is involved.
I know people whose only method of dealing with stress is to totally flip out. Then, after they calm down, they pull themselves together and realize that everything wasn’t as bad as they originally thought. In other words, the meltdown wasn’t even worth it.
If you are the type to flip out over anything, then I have news for you: it’s ugly. That’s right, the behavior, even if it comes from something like stress and not meanness, isn’t attractive. “I love being around people when they’re flipping out,” said absolutely no one.
The behavior is unattractive for a few reasons. First, it makes you look really immature. Hopefully if you’re a teen, you’ve left elementary school behind. Well, freaking out all the time means you haven’t even left your toddler years behind. If you’re a guy, it makes you look even more like a baby.
Second, that behavior makes you look weak. And, in high school and the teenage world, looking weak is a huge social sin. A person who flips out appears weak because it shows he or she can’t cope. A high value, strong person will deal with stress in ways that allow him or her to remain in control. Freaking out shows a total lack of control.
Finally, when those highly stressed people have their meltdowns, it’s very awkward being around them. Most people feel they have to walk on egg shells. No one wants to be around people who force them to walk on eggshells, unless they kind of have to (like with a family member).
So, if you are the dramatic type who constantly flips out and melts down, then you’ll have to take it easy. Fortunately, tomorrow we will talk about ways to mellow out. Your popularity may depend on it!