Attraction isn’t a choice. I know it sounds odd, but it’s true. Look at it this way. You walk down the street and you see someone who is your definition of hot. Do you think “wow he/she is good looking?” or do you think “let me give this a little bit of thought?”
While it’s true that sometimes people can grow on us and become more attractive to us over time, the reality is that, in most cases, attraction is a quick, gut feeling that involves little rational thought.
The opposite is true as well. We often find people that we can look at or encounter and just think, “this person isn’t attractive.” If you don’t find a person attractive initially, can you be convinced? Possibly, but in many cases it’s hard.
Attraction is, in many ways a gut level feeling. Fortunately, there are things you can do to become more attractive based on the research and science of attraction.
Here are a few basic tricks to be attractive. And, yes, even you can be attractive. While these won’t solve all your popularity problems, they’re basic techniques to get you started.
-Walk and act with confident body language
-Have a swagger about you
-Develop an edge
-Be caring, but take a “don’t care” type of attitude to drama and stress
-Don’t be aggressive, but err on the side of assertiveness
-Be flirty with guys you like
-Have open body language and gestures
-Drop the attitude if you think you may like a guy
-Make yourself more feminine where possible
So, try out these tips and see what happens. You’ll probably find that even just giving a few of them a try, you’ll have more people show an interest in you. That’s because as humans we find certain traits attractive, just because it’s wired into your brains.
Can you be attractive? Absolutely!